How can Christians respond to accusations about hating or devaluing women?

First, it is important to realize that when some people make this sort of claim, they are not looking to have a reasonable discussion. Others, however, may very well be seeking to understand how Christians hold a pro-life position while not being callous toward women who feel an unwanted or unplanned pregnancy may adversely impact them.

Second, remember that many asking this question may have differing views about when life begins. While conveying your belief about life beginning at conception is appropriate, keep in mind that they may not be looking for the “standard” answer reviewing the relative importance of an unborn baby’s life versus the difficulties associated with having a child.

Third, it may be best to offer a “both…and” response. There are many Christian organizations that work with families, women, and children. Those organizations represent well the care and concern Christians have for life after birth. We don’t simply care about the abortion issue but about life more generally.

Ultimately, being pro-life does not mean we are anti-women, though many might make that leap. In the end, “the proof of the pudding is in the eating,” and Christians must continue to demonstrate that they care for the unborn, for women, and for all of God’s creation. Our role is not to convince others that we care but to do the good work of the gospel regardless.

As Paul says of the apostles and their labors,

“To the present hour we hunger and thirst, we are poorly dressed and buffeted and homeless, and we labor, working with our own hands. When reviled, we bless; when persecuted, we endure; when slandered, we entreat. We have become, and are still, like the scum of the world, the refuse of all things” (1 Cor 4:11–13).

Our good work in service of the gospel may not bring blessing, comfort, or acceptance, but it is still the good work we are called to do.